To my friend in sorrow… beyond condolences


How do you deal with the delivery of bad news while on your travels?

Does signing for it on the dotted line with the standard cliché apply to all packages of bad news- big or small?

A few weeks ago I received sad news that a dear friend was grieving in sorrow. I didn’t know how to handle such a delicate package besides offering some comforting words of encouragement and my condolences.

But is that ever enough?

How do you tell a friend in sorrow you may not understand exactly what she’s going through but you feel her pain- or at least a part of it? Is sending condolences enough or is it another cliché to add to her wounds?

For someone who loves to write, I’ve been short of words to extend my sympathies to my friend besides to use those exact words. So I’ll write it as I simply feel it…

Dear friend in sorrow, I’m not there with you, but you’re constantly in my thoughts. I just don’t know the right words to express beyond my deepest sympathies for your greatest loss… x




I entered your humble home as a stranger, and left as part of the family. Thank you for your kindness. x

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  1. Sometimes I think just saying ” I don’t know what to say” says a lot. Being the recipient of condolences can be so awkward, and then I use energy trying to make the well-wisher feel better, which is exhausting. Your note sounded sincere, and didn’t ask the receiver for any input. Perfect.

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  2. Having been on both sides of this equation, just saying “I’m sorry for your loss” means A LOT. So many people don’t know what to say, so they say nothing. This, in turn, feels like one is being ignored in their grief, and that is worse. Nice to meet you!


    1. Hi Terry, I take that as a compliment!

      I’m learning to open up my heart and not be afraid to say things as I feel. Sometimes simplicity is the most complicated thing to express.

      Thanks for passing by… Don’t be a stranger 🙂

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